When You Walk Off Stage

I don’t think you feel as good as you want to when you walk off stage. 

I think you act like you feel great but really you have a lot of mixed emotions and thoughts about what just happened…about what you just did on stage. 

Was it good? Was I good? Did they like me? Maybe I should have…? Maybe I shouldn’t have…? Why did the audience…? Why didn’t the audience…? Do I even care? Is it ok to care? Where’s the beer and bbq?

You want to believe the show was good because that’s what you just spent your time doing…So you act like you believe it was.  You hide the second guessing and the subtle (or very apparent) let down of the show.  

I’ve been there a million times, and you have too.  Now is just the first time we’re telling each other.

I think you want your show to be great. 

And it isn’t. 

Or maybe it is but you don’t truly believe it is. 

In both cases, when you walk off stage night after night after night, there’s a lot of internal questioning and doubting going on when you walk off stage.

Oh yes you experience the post-show adrenaline buzz and all the pats on the back, and it’s all smiles and good times for a minute.  But that voice is still doubting and wondering, and getting louder. 

I want you to walk off stage every night thinking, feeling, knowing and believing “I did it”.  

I’m going to say that again…

I want you to walk off stage every night in the most bold and humble way, thinking, feeling, knowing and believing I DID IT.

Most of your self doubt and fake confidence about your live show has come from a lack of definition for the word “it”.

So I can help you with that. I want to help you and I’m willing to help you. I’m the guy.

Email me. Call me. Send me a postcard, drop me a line.

It’s about to be winter which usually means a lot less touring. A perfect time to re-tool and re-define.

I hope your walk off stage will become a victorious one, fulfilling and meaningful.

p.s. I’ve observed and experienced this post-show internal confusion in artists playing bar gigs, clubs, theaters and arenas.  It has absolutely nothing to do with the size of the crowd or the size of the paycheck.



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Even Great Ideas...

Even great ideas don’t take care of themselves.

It was a great idea to want to go to the moon.

It was a great idea to make that Sgt. Peppers album cover.

I’ve watched documentaries about both.  Both are great ideas that didn’t take care of themselves.

Take care of yours.

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A Growing Problem With Podcasts

Well, it’s not really going to be a problem with podcasts themselves, but rather the hosts and the content.

I’ll use an example:

I like Butch Walker. I think he’s incredibly talented, interesting, and entertaining both in his live show and in interviews.

So when podcasts really started to pick up steam, I would search Butch Walker in the podcast app and listen.

The first time I listened to Butch Walker get interviewed on a podcast…it was the first time…so the interviewer had created this great piece of content by simply asking Butch “How did you get to where you are today”.

With Butch’s response being a very entertaining version of “I started over there, then this happened, then that happened and now I’m here.”

Ok. Awesome. That was really fun. Never heard Butch do that type of interview before. I really enjoyed that…so I’d like to enjoy another podcast where Butch Walker is getting interviewed for an hour.

I click on the next podcast that Butch is a guest on.

It turns out the person who started this next podcast had the same idea for their podcast as the first person. ‘I’ll get musicians on here and have them tell their awesome stories about how they got from there to here’.

And that wasn’t a bad idea for a podcast, but I just heard that podcast.  But since I’d only heard that type podcast ONCE before, I thoroughly enjoy the second one too.

Then I click on the third podcast down…and that person had the same idea for a podcast TOO! So now I’m on round three of Butch getting asked pretty much the same questions.  Still not bad but now its starting to losing some luster…

You see where this is going for the podcast world…what has happened and what is happening and what will happen.

We’re going to need better podcasters.  Podcasters who have different ideas, a more focused reason for doing a podcast.  Podcasters who will bring artists in (or whoever) and have a podcast beyond “how did you get to where you are today?”

(And I will say again, there’s nothing inherently wrong with that type of podcast.  It’s just that there’s lots of those podcasts and more new ones all the time just like it.)

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A Little Fun With This One

Something I hear a lot at shows, both big and small is…

“Ok, we’re just gonna have some fun with this one”…usually said before the act plays a well known cover.

A couple things to point out:

I applaud the statement of purpose.  It’s clear what the point of doing the next song is: Fun.  And by “fun” they mean happy fun, smiley fun, excited fun. fun fun.

And it usually proceeds as such. Clear purpose, desired result.

So with the clear answer of “why are you playing this song?” stated both verbally and internally as it pertains to the cover song you’re about to play…it begs the question…

Why are you playing each of the other songs on your set list?

If the cover song is to have some fun…What are the other songs for?

It could also be to ‘have some fun’. Maybe it’s something different. But it should be something. Something understood by the people on stage, communicated to the people watching the stage. 

(Not necessarily spelled out, but definitely communicated)

p.s. I will add: The phrase “Ok, we’re just gonna have some fun with this one” can easily carry with it the artist distancing themselves from any distaste the audience might have for the cover song the artist picked…

And in turn, equating “have some fun” with a lack of personal attachment to the outcome and consequence of playing the song.

If you want to have some fun, have some fun, and be willing to take it seriously.



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Festival Lights

The thing about festival gigs is that…

The lights are on. As in, the sun is out. As in, it’s not dark like you’re accustomed to, like the 98% of other shows you play.

Usually. Unless you’re one of the last three acts of the day.

When you’re a young act your dying to get on those festival stages, and then when you do it can often “just feel weird”.

It’s probably because you played your first 150 shows in the dark. Dingy clubs and bars, where having more than a few can lights was considered a luxury…and now all of a sudden the sun is illuminating absolutely everything. There’s literally no hiding. It’s a very different set of feelings and circumstances. 

But even for acts further up the food chain who are used to playing with production in bigger clubs and theaters…those acts are still getting the day time slots at festivals…So there’s no smoke and lights to help the climactic moments.  There’s no black out at the end of the song to help the audience know it’s the end of the song.  

It’s just you. Brightly lit you.

It’s important to remember.  And it’s important to embrace the difference and do something with it.

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An Important Music Podcast Episode

If you’re the type of person who reads this blog, then I think you’re the type of person who would appreciate this podcast episode:

And The Writer Is: Season 2 Episode 6: David Israelite 

(it’s the most recent episode right now)

You need to listen to this.

David is on the front edge of making legislative change in favor of songwriters…as in more money for songwriters.  He’s brilliant and explains how we got here, where ‘here’ is, and where we might be going.  

Obviously lots of the talk revolves around streaming.

This podcast is incredibly informative and educational.  I hope it doesn’t inspire more complaining but more action. 

Somehow “what are you going to DO about it” has become synonymous with “what are you going to POST about it”.  And those aren’t the same things.

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