Specifying / Prefacing

“The chicken has nuts in it.”

vs

“The chicken might not be very good.”

The specifying is for them. The prefacing is for you.

Not all prefacing is this way, but I know you know what I’m talking about here.

The little things that we say (just before the main thing we mean to say) in order to protect ourselves and our egos.

It’s scarier and more thrilling to go without the preface.

***There are very few artists, writers, producers who are confident enough to play someone a new song without throwing in a few prefacing remarks. 

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Throwing Away A Picture

Drawing a picture to throw it away.

Writing a song and not recording it.

Making a glorious meal for one.

It’s a different thing isn’t it? It changes the answer so drastically to the question, ‘what is it for?’

It’s most likely a less confusing answer too.

You might not do any one of those three things very often but it might be worth doing one of those things once in a while. To remember what simplified, specific purpose feels like.

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Do / Doing

I love the difference in responses to the two questions…

What do you do?

What are you doing?

The first one is easier to wiggle out of, or white lie, or be ambiguously as successful as you want to be.

The second one demands more reality and less ideal.

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Who’s Going To Believe First?

Most artists spend most of their time waiting to be picked.

Be picked by the best record label, the most connected manager, the high powered booking agent.

They spend all their time waiting to get picked instead of picking…instead of believing.

Artists want to be believed in before they’ve proved it, but don’t want to believe in others UNLESS they’ve proved it first. (aka…artists believe in the ones they want to be picked by, but not in the ones they themselves could pick)

Artists want the very thing that they’re not willing to give to others.

The only way to begin breaking the cycle is to go first and believe in someone who hasn’t proven it yet.

That’s what you’re hoping others will do for you, so go do it first.

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Where Are The Tongs?

It turns out we like things in the kitchen more than just approximately right.

If it goes in the fourth drawer and it gets put in the third drawer, there is panic.

We don’t really want the babysitter to unload the dishwasher.

Or the babies.

There are some things in life that need to be just right.

And a lot of other things we only think need to be just right.

The price tag for delegating tasks is that they are not going to do it exactly like you.

The price tag for not delegating tasks is that you have to do it, and there’s only so much you can do.

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All The Things You’re Good At

It’s really tempting to tell everyone (subtly, as to not appear as an egomaniac) all the things you’re best at.

But you’re good at so many things that it’s hard to remember any of them.

The better someone gets to know you, the more receptive they’ll be to defining you by a greater number of professional strengths. The strengths will then be celebrated as opposed to forgotten due to confusion.

***This isn’t a message about staying in one single lane and not developing outside of it. It’s a message about discerning what is helpful in the moment…about developing a wide selection of strengths but knowing which ones to bring up and which ones to let rest in any given situation.

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