Musicians And Babies

Having babies will not ruin your career.

I’ve had the baby talk with countless musicians over the years and while everyone has their own way of saying it, most artists and musicians are simply afraid that having a baby will ruin their career.

It won’t.

If you want babies, have them. If you don’t want them, that’s great too.

But don’t put it off because you think it’ll be better timing after a tour or an album cycle or a certain level of success. Those are just excuses.

You’re afraid and that’s ok. Now get on with it.

***In full disclosure, I too was scared for a long time. It sounded like this, ‘I need to be ready first’. But could never define ‘ready’. And then I realized that readiness had nothing to do with it…willingness was what I needed.

I have two babies.

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Everyday Is A Comeback

The friends you think are doing really well…you’re right about some of them and way off on others.

The friends you think are having a hard time, well you’re right about most of them but probably way off on others.

The music business is hard. Everyday is a comeback. It’s lonely.

Ask better questions. Listen longer. Let there be silence.

Without persistent, deepening connection, the highs get dangerously high and the lows get dangerously low.

Get to know the people you love.

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That Thing They Do

It’s so easy to see.

You can think of any band or artist and their music and in just a few words describe them accurately and concisely.

Until you get to yourself. That thing YOU do is hard for you to see.

When you’re asked what you do it’s a long wandering list and you can’t be put in a box or be limited by anything, and it’s a cross between this and that with a little bit of this other thing sometimes…yada yada yada

And yet just like you can easily describe others, others can easily describe you.

And everyone is right.

You can’t describe you. Not because you’re indescribable, but because you’re not seeing the simplicity of how everyone else experiences you.

See simpler.

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The Space Between

When you’re playing live there should be just as much purpose, consideration and meaning to the spaces in between your songs as there is in the songs.

The show has one start and one end.

The show doesn’t stop after each song and start again with the next.

It’s one unbroken event.

It doesn’t matter if you believe that to be true or not. It’s true.

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Hum Love

I’m entering the land of playlists.

Well, one playlist. It’s called Hum Love. Brand new today. Right now.

The best of the fresh with the best of the best. And some in-between.

You can listen and follow on Spotify and Apple Music and I’ll give it a shout out on here each month when I add new songs.

Songs are the reason why I (and all of us) got into this business in the first place…so I figured I’d share some good ones.

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Will Someone Just Pick Me

We all know to just go to work. To not bank on the money truck randomly backing into our driveway. To not wait for someone to pick us.

But somewhere in the back of our minds, probably every day, probably secretly, for a moment…we just want to be picked.

We hope our phone rings with that big life fulfilling opportunity on the other end of the line.

The desire to be picked isn’t going away, but we can choose which desires we grow and develop…and to which ones we give the cold shoulder.

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