Real Life and Climactic Ends

We want the thing we’re working on to be really good but we don’t want it to be the climax of our career.

We want it to go really well, but not too well to where when it’s over we’re past our prime, past the best days.

See, since we were babies, in every movie and book the climax is at the end.

The phrase is ‘climactic ending’…not climactic middle or climactic beginning.

So when you do knock it out of the park, two voices speak up…

1. This trajectory of success will last forever, getting bigger and better all the time just like it is right now. I’ll have hit after hit and then I’ll have my biggest hit while laying on my death bed. A perfectly timed climactic ending.

2. Uh oh, what if I can never follow this up. What if this was the climax and now what is the purpose of rest of my life if I’ve already had my biggest moment.

At some point your career is going to climax. And when it does and you realize it has, that’s when you learn in a new profound way that life ain’t like the movies. 

It’s actually better and richer.

In real life you don’t get to choose where the climax goes. But you do get to write what goes after.

***Ok so what to do with the two voices:

Voice number one: It’s not going to go like that. But it sure is fun ride that momentum when you have it, so ride it up. 

Voice number two: At some point you won’t have the follow up. So it’s worth starting now defining your purpose apart from your level of success. 

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Musicians And Babies

Having babies will not ruin your career.

I’ve had the baby talk with countless musicians over the years and while everyone has their own way of saying it, most artists and musicians are simply afraid that having a baby will ruin their career.

It won’t.

If you want babies, have them. If you don’t want them, that’s great too.

But don’t put it off because you think it’ll be better timing after a tour or an album cycle or a certain level of success. Those are just excuses.

You’re afraid and that’s ok. Now get on with it.

***In full disclosure, I too was scared for a long time. It sounded like this, ‘I need to be ready first’. But could never define ‘ready’. And then I realized that readiness had nothing to do with it…willingness was what I needed.

I have two babies.

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Everyday Is A Comeback

The friends you think are doing really well…you’re right about some of them and way off on others.

The friends you think are having a hard time, well you’re right about most of them but probably way off on others.

The music business is hard. Everyday is a comeback. It’s lonely.

Ask better questions. Listen longer. Let there be silence.

Without persistent, deepening connection, the highs get dangerously high and the lows get dangerously low.

Get to know the people you love.

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That Thing They Do

It’s so easy to see.

You can think of any band or artist and their music and in just a few words describe them accurately and concisely.

Until you get to yourself. That thing YOU do is hard for you to see.

When you’re asked what you do it’s a long wandering list and you can’t be put in a box or be limited by anything, and it’s a cross between this and that with a little bit of this other thing sometimes…yada yada yada

And yet just like you can easily describe others, others can easily describe you.

And everyone is right.

You can’t describe you. Not because you’re indescribable, but because you’re not seeing the simplicity of how everyone else experiences you.

See simpler.

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The Space Between

When you’re playing live there should be just as much purpose, consideration and meaning to the spaces in between your songs as there is in the songs.

The show has one start and one end.

The show doesn’t stop after each song and start again with the next.

It’s one unbroken event.

It doesn’t matter if you believe that to be true or not. It’s true.

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Hum Love

I’m entering the land of playlists.

Well, one playlist. It’s called Hum Love. Brand new today. Right now.

The best of the fresh with the best of the best. And some in-between.

You can listen and follow on Spotify and Apple Music and I’ll give it a shout out on here each month when I add new songs.

Songs are the reason why I (and all of us) got into this business in the first place…so I figured I’d share some good ones.

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