There’s a long list of people who won’t stop you.
There’s a short list of people who will help you.
With this information, the first thing each of us think of is ‘who is on each of my lists…especially that second one?’
But it’s also worth considering ‘whose lists am I on…especially that second one?’
The only thing scarier than getting coffee with a friend is getting coffee again with them too soon.
I’m sure some of you know what I’m talking about.
There are friends and acquaintances and associates who are on the six week rotation or the ten week rotation. And that’s because it takes that amount of time in between to feel good about getting together and having pretty much the same conversation all over again. It’s fun, it’s fine, its great to check in and connect a little bit.
But if you get coffee and then get coffee again with the same person just three days later, you’re sure to tread into new territory…because you won’t feel ok about rehashing all the same stuff since it’s only been three days.
It could get awkward. It could get boring. There might be some silence. But there also might be a new question. A question that digs just a little bit deeper than usual. And that’s where it goes from relationship maintenance to relationship growth.
Ad-libs go at the end of songs. The ad-lib is a deviation from the established melody. It’s bouncing off of what is already familiar and now the familiar gets a twist.
Ad-libs have a harder time being effective at the beginning of songs because the foundation hasn’t been set yet. We appreciate variations much more when we’re sure about how it’s ‘suppose to go’.
This is also why ad-libbing is pretty tough in the studio. The artist has just recently written the song, maybe never played it live, and is going to record the vocal but the melody isn’t ingrained enough in their head to be able to bounce off of it.
To add to that…As fans, it’s easy to wonder why the recorded version isn’t more like the amazing version we experience live. Well, it’s partly because all those cool nuanced things that are happening in the live version weren’t invented until long after the recording. After the artist has played the song a hundred times on the road the ad-libbing and creative modification (within in the boundaries of the song) can go way up…and with much more confidence and ease.
Establish and deviate.
Someone who speaks clearly is also (most likely) speaking articulately.
On the other hand, I think we’ve heard plenty of articulate speakers who aren’t clear speakers.
Articulate speakers can get seduced into thinking the more articulate speaking the better. ‘I sound so good I must keep going for all of our sakes’.
Being clear takes more guts.
Did the fist pair of sneakers come with instructions for loop swoop and pull…or did they toss the laces in knowing people would figure something out?
No need for ‘at owners expense’ on the tow away sign. We know.
No one looks cool looking down at their phone. You are not the exception.
Why do we only use the term spry for old people?
Every child’s first lie is ‘yes I brushed my teeth’.
I understand that sliding down the fire pole is faster than the firemen having to take the stairs…but why don’t they just build the fireman hang out room on the same floor as the truck?