Rehearsing New Skills
How long can I go without doing the thing I know I’m going to have to do?
We are well rehearsed in delaying the scary necessary next thing. We are well rehearsed in distraction…even sophisticated, elaborate distractions. We are well rehearsed in making sure no one else knows what we really should be doing with our time and energy.
We need to rehearse some different skills. We won’t be good at them at first but we’ll get better.
Other Than Boring
We’re interested in (and give our attention to) lots of different kinds of people…funny, serious, contemplative, unlikable, talented, clumsy, innovative, annoying, sensitive, naive, confident, rebellious.
The one none of us have time for is boring.
Anything other than boring and you’ve got a chance. A chance to find a group of people who are already interested in the reason you’re not boring.
The Great Bad Ideas
The good thing about the ideas in your head is that you automatically get to use them as stepping stones to the next idea. Even the bad ones serve as the spring board for the better ones.
So when you’re with your team trying to write the song, figure out the plan, crack the riddle…it’s worth saying your bad ideas out loud. Your bad idea can shift the course just enough for you or someone else to come up with the better or best idea because of it.
And certainly when you feel stuck, bad ideas are your best friends…they’re the ones that are going to lead the way to being unstuck.
Incorporating and Committing
Incorporating someone into the thing
vs.
Committing to someone
This is essentially the difference between a solo performer (who hires musicians) and an actual band.
Incorporating people into your thing means to simply include them in what you have going on. They get to come along, be on the inside, do their job, get paid...they’re relieved of all major decision making, plan making, goal setting, major problem solving.
But committing to someone is very different. Committing to someone says…Our end goals are aligned. We share a vision. Your fulfillment is matters to me and I’m willing to compromise part of what I want so that you get what you want too. We’re building this thing together. And if we fail I’m glad it was with you.
There’s a place for both. Advantages to both. But don’t let anyone be confused about which boat they’re in.
We All Just Want...
First Monday of the month, new Hum Love playlist on Spotify and Apple
We all just want to write a song that someone needs to hear.
We all just want to hear a song we need to hear again.
And we all just want to click play or click record and be taken out of our surroundings by being completely immersed in them.