Coordinated Effort And Magnetic Pull
Where there is coordinated effort there is magnetic pull.
The big concert.
The football game.
The new restaurant.
We have a sense for the degree of coordinated effort that was put into something in order to make it happen. We’re drawn to places and events where people had to work together. If it took that much team work it must be good.
In order to achieve your vision you probably need some magnetic pull…which means you might have to get more people involved…which means you might have to compromise some of your vision. But it’s more fun to work on something that has magnetic pull.
Caring Within The Conversation
When someone comes to you with their project or problem it’s worth remembering that this isn’t the first time they’ve thought of it. They’re most likely not coming to you on a complete whim.
They’ve been thinking about for a while. Wondering whether to bring it up. Wondering how to bring it up. Developing expectations about what the response will be.
Bringing something up, taking initiative, going first. It’s scary. So if you’re on the receiving end of this type of conversation, take the time to first consider the tension that the other person pressed through to even get the words out.
And yes, you might not be in for the project or able to help with the problem…but you can always care within the conversation.
The Hard Paths
All the paths are going to be hard.
Opting out of your current set of problems might give a day or two of release but if you want to do meaningful work and have meaningful relationships it’s going to be hard and there are going to be problems.
It’s foolish to make the decision based on which path is going to be easiest…because there’s no way to know and both are going to be hard.
The better questions are…
Which path will I be proud of walking…regardless of ultimate outcome?
What do I want to build?
What do I want my life to look and feel like?
And how might this path take me there?
The perfect path isn’t perfect at all. If all goes well, the perfect path entails exchanging one set of problems for another as you (and your work) grow and evolve with the people around you heading in the same direction.