Children (and lots of adults) want hard things to be easy. They walk around all day wishing the difficulty and uncomfortableness in their lives would go away…and become easy.
Mature people don’t wish for hard things, or meaningful things, to be easy. They see the hard thing and embrace the difficulty, not wishing for it to become easier (leveling the mountain) but persist and commit to the task for what it is (climbing the mountain).
We need to stop looking for and wishing for doors to fly open with a flick of our finger. (It’s ok if this happens to happen.)
We need to be more excited about a door that demands our shoulder be put into it.
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A: Hi Mr. Repave, I’ve heard you do good work and I trust my sources…How much is it to repave my driveway?
B: $1000
A: Really? Will you do it for $600?
B: I could do 60% of it for $600
A: No, I want you to do 100%, great work for $600
B: This isn’t going to work.
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A: Hi Mr. Repave, I’ve heard you do good work and I trust my sources…How much is it to repave my driveway?
B: $1000
A: I see. That’s more than I have right now. When I have the money together, I’ll give you a call back and have you come do the work.
B: Looking forward to it.
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A: Hi Mr. Repave, I’ve heard you do good work and I trust my sources…How much is it to repave my driveway?
B: $1000
A: Great, when can we get started.
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There’s something about not negotiating a price.
It says to the provider “You have an accurate view of how valuable you and your services are. You are smart and intelligent and I’m not going to call you a liar or a dummy by offering you something lower”.
The person in conversation #1 is trying to convince Mr. Repave that he has an inaccurate view of his worth. That’s insulting. It’s never going to lead to a good place.
It’s ok if you don’t have the money, like in conversation #2, but the person in conversation #2 didn’t disrespect Mr. Repave by telling him he’s foolish for charging $1000. This person essentially said “It’s worth every bit of $1000. That’s the right price and it’s a good value that I happen to not be able to afford right now”. There is mutual respect there.
The person in conversation #3 is going to have a great experience with Mr. Repave. There’s mutual trust and respect happening and a mutually beneficial agreement of services and money.
I’m not saying never barter. I actually love a good back and forth.
You’ll have to use your own instincts and intellect to gauge when it’s ok to negotiate and when not to.
Just remember paying someone what they ask for, there’s power in that, for what it says about them and what it says about you.
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Some of the smartest most successful people I know and know of…I can’t really tell you exactly what they do. There’s no real definition. They might have a loose job description, but they do so much more, put so much of themselves into their work that their actual job description is just a formality.
They are invaluable and the borders of their actual work (professional, emotional, relational, etc) are undefined because they cover such a wide landscape.
So I scratch my head and think, I don’t really know what he/she does.
This is likely not the case in your band and team. True, most people’s jobs on your team are probably undefined too, but this stems from the opposite end of the spectrum: lack of purpose, vision, community, trust, ambition and teamwork. The un-definition based jobs on your team are not undefined because people are lighting the world on fire everyday with their character and ambition.
You thinking “I don’t really know what he does” is rooted in a very different place.
Your “undefined” workers have a different definition.
When you don’t know what the drummer or agent has been doing all week or month, when their work is undefined, the easiest thing to think is “They must be doing something valuable, I mean, they love this band, right? I’m sure they’re not just sitting around not putting themselves on the line. I’m sure they’re tackling the next project”.
I know you really really want to believe that everyone on the team is applying themselves and contributing to the goal. But if you don’t know they are…they’re not.
You have team members without definition because of assumption, fear, false hope and lack of responsibility in your leadership.
Chances are the people on your team who’s role can’t be defined have never had a clearly defined role to begin with.
Start there. With yourself and then with the others.
The people talked about in the first couple paragraphs became undefinable by first becoming extremely defined.
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This isn’t a grammar lesson or a tricky word problem, it’s about saying the same thing in a new way and new meaning.
When asked what makes a hit song, Gordon Kennedy said “find something that people need to hear and say it in a way that they’ll want to listen over and over”.
The first part is hard, the second part is harder. Both parts take a lot of digging and your own unique perspective.
Dig?
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No matter what level of artist you are, you have the opportunity and responsibility of guiding your fans and culture in how you want them to consume your music.
iTunes, Amazon, Soundcloud, Spotify, Youtube, etc? Probably not Tidal.
The truth is everyone expects your songs to be on any and every platform they could possibly consume music through.
But when you’re directing your fans, where do you want them to go? What contributes best to your culture?
When you say, “Just released our song, check it out on iTunes, Spotify, Amazon and our lyric video on YouTube”…you’re missing an opportunity to direct the narrative.
Do you attribute value to the max number of people who listen to it? Do you attribute success to people downloading and owning your music? Is it important they purchase it for money? Is the visual an integral part of who you are as an artist?
Each platform says something different about what you value as an artist and how you want your culture to grow.
True, a lot of people are going to hear your music across all the different delivery methods and aren’t gonna care where you’d like them to listen.
But there’s an important group of people who are looking to take your lead…they’ll go where you lead them because they believe you have a reason why. And hopefully you do.
I’m always interested in your perspective, whether affirming or dissenting. Continue the conversation anytime: gabethebassplayer@gmail.com
I hear it said by a lot of artists, “we’re trying to make a different record “we really want to do something fresh” “this is going to be totally new for us”. Usually this is in reference to the production or subject matter of a record.
And then when the record comes out all they did was tweak how the snare sounds and add a little fuzz to the bass.
So if you’re talking or thinking about doing something different, taking a step forward, take a bigger step.
You’re doing something different, so do something that is noticeably different, that your fans (who aren’t music nerds like you) can actually HEAR.
It may feel like a giant risk to you, but your fans are a whole lot more capable than you think…probably MORE capable than you when it comes to a new road for your music.
So if it’s not scaring you, you haven’t gone far enough.
If it is scaring you, push a little further, you’re getting closer, don’t stop now.
p.s. It doesn’t have to be your goal to “do something different” (that’s a different conversations). But there’s nothing wrong with following up Please Please Me with I Want To Hold Your Hand.
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