Reaching Up

You don’t reach up to the people you really want to work with, partner with, do business with because ‘someone like that wouldn’t work with someone like me’.

First of all, it’s very bold and borderline arrogant to assume you know the desires of this person you don’t know.

Second, saying ‘someone like that wouldn’t work with someone like me’ further solidifies the false idea in your mind that successful people are different than you and therefore off limits…That you are not them…That they have the achiever gene and on your best day you can only be a successful imposter.

Third, if you never ask, then you never have to feel the pain of rejection. Rejection hurts. Better to avoid it. Better to just believe ‘someone like that wouldn’t work with someone like me’.  The assumption limits yourself into an ever present dull pain of life that most people choose to live with rather than reaching up to someone and laying it on the line.

You need to reach up. You have a lot to offer. And they just might be waiting for someone like you.

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Your Worst Gigs

You are not your worst gigs.

You’re not even your ok gigs or your good gigs.

You are more like your best gigs, your great gigs.

That feeling and that knowing when you’re having a great show…that is when you are most yourself.

So two things…

1. Your worst gigs don’t reveal your true identity (as a human) as much as your best gigs.

2. If your best gigs are closer to who you are as an artist and a person…it would be beneficial to put more blood sweat and tears into making sure you have more of your best gigs.  Not only for the sake of the gig…but for your own sake.

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When You Were My Age

The other day I was catching up with a old music biz friend who is a bunch of years older than I am.

I asked him: What do you know now that you were learning when you were my age?

It turned out that was a really good question to ask.  So feel free to tuck that one away and use it when it comes to mind.

And I’ll add this…

If someone in their early 20’s asked me what I know now that I was learning (the hard way) back then…this is what comes to mind…

When delegating, and the task comes back completed in a different way than I had in mind…that’s the BEAUTY of delegating, and the synergy that is happens as a result.

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Dropping In

So in halfpipe snowboarding as they start their runs there’s the first part where they’re just snowboarding slowly, gradually, down a little hill toward the half pipe. No real action here.

This is a necessary step to get from the start house to the halfpipe.

And then they get to the pipe and blast into it with everything they have in order to make that first trick explode.

Once they actually drop into the half pipe it’s go time.  And if they’re good, they’re either going to have an amazing run or going to fall and make a complete mess of it.

(and then go back to the top and do it all over again)


We have to be willing to drop in…and do it sooner than later.

To be willing to make a move where it’s go time and we’re going big or falling down.

***A great way to drop into your halfpipe is to self-impose a deadline.

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It’s The People

It’s the people.

The people on your team. The people you’re with on the road. The people you’re succeeding and failing beside every day.

You have to love the people you’re doing all of this with.

Why?

Because you’re going to spend a long time doing it and you don’t get years of your life back.

Win lose or draw, doing it with people you love causes your life to be rich.

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We Do This Thing Where

As soon as you’re willing to say “We do this thing where…”

You’re setting yourself up for criticism.  You might get made fun of. You might get laughed at.

Even worse you may never actually know these things are happening but are in a constant state of speculation and fear that these things are happening behind your back just because you decided to do this thing where…

But the truth is now more than ever, you have to do this thing where…

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