The easier you make it for someone to help you, the more help you’re going to get.
Making it easier involves…
Speaking up about what you need
Being specific
Being concise
An underlying message about how it will make them look good, feel good, get credit, further their career, make them look cool in the eyes of people they respect.
Being open to their help and suggestions
Asking someone to help you with something that they are really good at helping people with.
Actually needing the help
Being polite
Being persistent, not annoying
And the list goes on…
If you don’t know where to start, start with the first one.
If you jump into the passenger seat of my car and we take a little road trip down to, say, Graceland, we’ll listen to music on our way.
After the road trip you’ll probably come to believe that I know all the words to all the songs. That makes me look pretty cool, pretty respected, pretty unique, pretty musical, an expert.
How does he do it? How does he know every word to every song? This is amazing!
I don’t. It’s just that I like listening to the songs I know the words to.
I don’t have to know all the words to all the songs, I just have to know enough to make you think the number is infinite. Then I get ALL the credit… “He knew the words to EVERY song”.
This is what most of us are doing in any field we’re in. Gaining enough knowledge, skills and reputation to cause people to think it’s endless. Of course we know it’s not endless.
But if someone thinks you know all the words to all the songs the best thing is to just keep singing along.