It could be that your band isn’t any good, that’s why you’re hearing the word “no” a lot. Back to the drawing board for you. But if you’ve been around for a little while there’s a good chance it could be that the people you’re trying to access, the people you’re trying to get to say yes, to get their attention, just aren’t looking for you.
Rejection isn’t usually easy to deal with, especially in a young band. But if you’re a good band, I have good news. Or at least the equivalent of a 2 minute shoulder rub.
This blog is a perfect example. There are so many articles, books, blogs and seminars about dealing with rejection…and you have actually, physically seen them, laid eyes on them, seen the headlines or the links or the websites. But they didn’t even register with you. You just kept on clicking something else.
You just weren’t looking for ideas about rejection. They were right there. Great words of encouragement! Someone, probably a team of people, worked really hard in order to get their link/blog/article about dealing with rejection in front of you and you rejected it. Ha!
You weren’t in the right frame of mind at the time. You were distracted. Understanding rejection didn’t feel important at the time. You got a phone call. There was a different article that perked your interest more.
Does that mean you are against those people and their work? No. Is their work less valuable because you didn’t consume it and love it? No. Are they going to have to keep working hard in order to ever have a chance to re-approach you? Yes.
If you’re a good band, there’s some truth rolling around in this example. You work really hard to get your music in front of certain people or groups of people and it get’s ignored or they say no.
It could be for a bazillion different reasons, but it’s not personally against you. Do you take it personally? Yeah, of course. You worked really hard.
But let the discouragement roll off your shoulders, embrace the fact that you reject other peoples great hard work everyday (with or without knowing it). And you aren’t some nasty troll out to ruin others lives. You’re just not looking for their particular brand of hard work and greatness at the time. Maybe tomorrow you will be.
You clicked on me today. I guess some part of you was looking for something like this.
