It’s a scary thing to say. Whatever ‘this’ is says a lot about your taste and what you think the other person’s taste is. Taste is tied to values and values to identity.
The exchange is a snapshot of your identity, the other person’s identity and the identity of the relationship.
So it’s scary to give someone something they didn’t ask for because there’s a lot at stake. It’s much easier and safer to stick to something they’ve asked for.
But taking the bigger leap is what grows us together.
