We’ve all been skeptical of someones niceness.
Are they really that nice? Is it just a put on? Are they trying to get something from me? What’s the angle here? That doesn’t seem real to me, are they faking it?
And yet when someone is nasty to us we instead draw a quick conclusion that they are acting as who they truly are. That their nastiness is 100% authentic.
We can think of lots of reasons to be fake nice, but it’s hard to think of reasons to be fake mean, so we assume the meanness must be all real.
It’s not.
What would it look like to doubt someones meanness.
Are they really that mean? Is it just a put on? Are they trying to get something from me? What’s the angle here? That doesn’t seem real to me, are they faking it?
I’ve never heard ‘that Kevin is a real jerk but I just don’t know if I buy it’.
If we’re willing (at times) to be skeptical to think someone is worse than they’re showing, maybe we ought to be skeptical to think someone is better than they’re showing.
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I’m always interested in your perspective, whether affirming or dissenting. Continue the conversation anytime: gabe@gabethebassplayer.com