There’s no such thing as an giant leap of confidence for an artist.
Each time you play a show, no matter how big or small, it only counts as one. It’s one tiny step.
If you’re a band who’s played twenty shows and then gets to play Coachella or Austin City Limits to 10,000 that still only counts as one. Now you’re a band who’s played twenty-one shows. That’s all the steps you’ve taken.
You probably think it will count for more. You think after you play that huuuuuuge show you’ve built up in your mind for gajillions of people that you will ascend to a higher level. That’s just not how it works. Wish it did. Sorry.
There is something about taking that final step on to the stage that is a mind warp. For good and for bad. And you have to do it over and over and over again if you want to gain confidence.
Now, one guy might start the journey with more confidence than another, but in order to grow in that confidence its all the same, long, process.
It’s been said kinda like this before, but this is very similar to telling your wife she’s beautiful. It doesn’t matter how lavishly you give her a compliment on her beauty. It only counts as one. That one, amazing well thought out compliment will not boost her life’s confidence to the moon. You have to tell her every day, and then after a long long time, she will gain great confidence in her beauty.
Go out and play two hundred shows as fast as you can.
You need lots of one’s.
