Free Coffee

You can’t buy free coffee. 

I stopped into a local coffee place a couple weeks ago and I knew the cashier. 

I don’t know him particularity well but he’s a drummer, so we talked drums and bass and bands for a few minutes (it was mid-morning so the rush was over and there wasn’t a line behind me) and then I ordered my coffee. 

He handed it to me and said don’t worry about the $2.50

Getting free coffee is awesome. 

The truth is I have $2.50 to spare, but even all the money in the world can’t buy free coffee.

Free coffee takes connection. Coffee takes money. Free coffee takes connection.

If I’m getting free coffee, life is going well…And I felt like a million bucks walking out of there.  When I can walk into a public establishment, order something and the person working says ‘Nah, don’t worry about the money part’…things are happening.


May we all be willing to be the type of people who give and receive ‘free coffee’…giving and receiving the things money can’t buy.

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Repertoire of Responses

Repertoire of Responses

It’s worth increasing.

Whether in interviews or emails. And everything else.

The words you use, the tone, the amount of words, the questions you ask, stories you tell, your body language, the way you agree and disagree.

Increasing your repertoire of responses means when you start sweating and can’t think straight, you’ll have more tools.

And having more tools you’re accustomed to using means you can deliver in a more meaningful, powerful way for the people involved. 

Increasing the repertoire means you’re probably going to make some mistakes, say the wrong thing, say the right thing in the wrong way, not connect.

That’s the price. You can’t have it all right now. But it’s a price worth paying in order to care better for the world around you.

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First Hit Is The Hardest

I hung out with a good friend tonight. It wasn’t the greatest hang we’ve ever had, but not bad.  I know him really well, so we don’t really need to have the greatest time ever in order to have a great time.

It sure beats the alternative: me going to try and find a brand new friend to hang out with.  

Maybe I’m not really in the market for new best friends.

It’s a lot of work. It’s too risky. At a minimum I know I’m going to have a pretty good time with my old friend, and I know it’s possible for our time together to even be GREAT.  So I go with that.

But if I go looking for new friends, I’m either going to find my new best buddy of a lifetime, or have a lousy night.  

I’m going with what I know.

I’m hanging with my tried and true.  


This is exactly why it’s hard to have a hit song.

You could have the best song, but most people would rather spend time with a decent Bruno Mars tune.  Because we know Bruno, he’s our good friend. There’s a pretty high baseline of quality and entertainment there.  At a minimum he’s a familiar face, voice and presence…so we don’t have to work so hard to make the connection.

Bruno is a LOT less risky.

This is why an acts first smash is so often what they’re known for.

Because it has to be!

And then after you’re in,you don’t have to be quite as good because the relationship starts taking over.


It’s hard to have a hit because even though people may have crappy friends, having crappy friends is still a lot easier than going out and finding new friends.

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Storytelling Without Numbers

What if you had to tell your story without using numbers? No Spotify plays, hard ticket sales, soft ticket sales, Instagram followers, conversion rate, chart position, video plays, likes, comments, comments vs. likes…etc, etc, etc.

What if all that was off the table…That’s pretty scary.

What would you tell instead?  And would the powers that be even care about a story that wasn’t filled with numbers as reassurance?

Maybe not.

Then perhaps a question to go along with this idea is…are YOU willing to listen to someone else’s story without numbers?  Are you willing to make a judgement call based on what YOU think and know, instead of what the numbers may or may not indicate?

What are you doing? What conversation are you having with the audience? How do you want to matter? What do the diehards understand that the fence-riders don’t? Who are your people and why do the like you and listen to you?

None of those answers require numbers.


***I’ve offered this idea up to a few people lately and the knee-jerk reaction is to say “the people I’m talking to WANT the numbers”.  

Of course they do!

But I’ll argue they aren’t actually wanting the numbers…what they’re actually wanting is to feel safe and less risky about working with you.  And numbers can be a shortcut (albeit watered down, cheap, temporary, less unique) story to help them feel safe and less risky about you.

But you have to understand that very few people are actually interested in the numbers themselves.  So whether you ‘have the numbers’ or not, this is an invitation to tell a story that actually speaks to the heart of the humans involved in the meeting.  With or without numbers.

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Arousing Enthusiasm

The artists who succeed are the ones who know what arouses enthusiasm in people.

And also: in today’s fragmented niches and markets, it also helps a lot if you can clearly define who ‘people’ is for you. 

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Second Best Album

It never fails…when an artist puts out a record, project, EP, whatever and does the media and PR rounds to go along with it, it’s always some version of ‘this is my best record, and I’m more proud of this record than anything I’ve ever done’.

Blah blah blah.

It’s white noise.

Even if it’s true, it doesn’t matter.  Because remember, the point of the interview is to entertain.  This is the entertainment business.

So I’d like to offer up a different idea.

You put out your next record and instead say…”This is our second best record”.

Who says that?! No one. It’s entertaining in and of itself.

But there’s more…

We already know the very next question that interviewer is going to ask…Ok, so if this record is second best, which one is the best?

Perfect. Now they’re comparing two things that you’ve done. Deciding which one THEY think is best.  They’re further developing and engraining an opinion about your work into their brain (don’t pass over this…YOU are taking up more space in THEIR brain, which is a huge victory).

And by you putting the current record in second place, there’s also an undertone that your criteria for your best material goes beyond just what is newest. Which casts you as a wiser, more mature artist.

Isn’t it a fantastic paradox that perhaps a better way of talking about your next album is to say that it isn’t your best album?


***Anytime you bring up second place, people are instantly going to carry on the conversation (at least mentally) about what’s in first place. (Example: Michael Jordan is the second best basketball player of all time…..see :)

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